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Wow! Got on my computer 10 minutes ago and found this beautiful 'speech' on Facebook. Written by one of my favorite actors: Richard Hatch. (Well, duh, it's not like the Welshman is going to say anything useful - shrug). I thought I'd share it, because the words are strong and touch on something so important to me.

Nice.... )

Source: facebook post from Richard Hatch
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Stop wasting time on 'background noise'. Look at what you waste your time on and try to interfere when things don't add any quality to your life.
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woman 01Write down  3 things that make you sad/unhappy and think of ways to do something about it.

1. My weight...
Lose it. Eat less, sport, be healthier...

2. My indecisiveness
I think too much. I guess I have an 'annoying brain' of my own. :) I can't seem to make up my mind because I always see too many pros and cons. I weigh every decision a million times. Unless I'm angry, scared, hurt or something. That is when I act from my gut and I usually make the right choice.

3. My... let's not go there... anyone who knows me, knows what I number 1 should be.....
What I can do about it?... Well, see 2.... I can't make up my mind. I know what I want to do, just not how to accomplish it. Yet... I guess I'm waiting for the next anger-outburst.... :)

Happiness lengthens your life by 9 years.
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road - moonWrite down 3 things that you've accomplished in your life:

1. I became a mother. (Something I never expected I'd be)
2. I went to Cardiff for my 40th birthday. Organized it, went there with Iris and we both still have good memories of it.
3. I got my bookkeeping-diplomas. Very proud of those...
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Just look at the clouds. Watch them floading by. Then try to realize that your thoughts are just like that. They come and go. You stay. You are not your thoughts.
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16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop putting my own needs on the backburner.

The most painfull thing is losing myself in the process of loving someone else more than I love myself. And forgetting that I'm special too. There's nothing wrong with loving and caring, but I should help and love myself as well.
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vraagteken 02Question for this week:

Suppose dat you had a friend (male or female) that was in every way EXACTLY like you, what would be the thing that would annoy you in the long run about them?

Well, admit it, it is a good question...

I think... for today... my immediate thought would be... my apparent indifference... It's not that I AM indifferent, but I know I can appear to be indifferent arrogant, non-caring,

Those who know me, know better, but for people who've just met me, it can be frustrating, I suppose. :D
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And now for something COMPLETELY different:

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SINCERITY

Openess, sincerity. It seems so easy, but talking and acting based on how you think, feel en want is not as easy as you would think. Yet, it can be done. If something bothers you, say something, honestly and respectfully.
Be sincerely, also to yourself. We always try to present ourselves as better than we are. Put down the mask, acknowledge your mistakes and peculiarities. Learn to accept yourself... 
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1. Ran into the parents of one of Iris's friends, hadn't talked to them in a while.
2. Slowly getting somewhere with cleaning up desk. Finally!!!!!
3. Mmmm, eating a meal with mussels tonight. Been looking forward to it all afternoon.
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ABSENCE OF VANITY

Can you see the beauty in faded flowers, dustthreads, old paint, your body getting older and changing? Can you hear a story told by someone else and not immediately try to get a better one? Absence of vanity gives space for connection, compassion and love.
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REGULARITY.

Regularity is the best basis to calm a troubled mind. Create order out of chaos by getting at a fixed time, by taking a moment to meditate or by taking the time to review your day.
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SERENITY

Calm, acceptance, a sense of peace, a moment of serenity, that is where it all starts. In such a state of serenity your mind is still, there's nothing that disrupts your thoughts. Serenity is a fen in the woods on a windless day. The water surface is as smooth as a mirror. As you get closer, you can look to the bottom.
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16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should Stop holding grudges.

I shouldn't live my life with hate in my heart, because in the end I will only be hurting myself. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go!
Forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for me too. I must forgive myself too, move on and try to do better next time.


I'm good at holding grudges. Unfortunately... I mean, I'm still pissed off at CGL, a kid from my class, when I was 8 years old, because he pushed me down the stairs. I nearly clawed his eyes out,... And I still haven't forgiven him.... Luckily I can also forgive things ... I have.

But I've held more grudges over the last 7 years than ever before. I've been angry with my husband, my work, my colleagues, my parents, ... my life itself. I've resented everyone and myself with the exception of Iris. Forgiving others is, by now, no longer the hardest thing. I can see why I need to let go. And letting go has certainly helped me to get rid of a lot the stuff that was messing with my head.

But forgiving myself is harder. I should have done so many things differently. I should have made other choices. If only I hadn't... made the choices I made. Logically I know know that I can't go back on the choices I've made. I don't have a time-machine,.. but emotionally ... I  can't forgive myself.
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16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - Stop complaining and feeling sorry for myself.

If anyone is interested: This is from 30 things to stop doing to yourself

Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

Well this works for me. It's hard to break free from feeling that I'm the victim. It's such an easy part to slip in. "I'm tired, I don't want to fight anymore, it's everone else's fault, people don't know me, yada yada." I need to grab life by the balls again and get a life!
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16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I must stop trying to hold on to the past.

I think that I'm already letting go of more and more. Not yet the great spring-cleaning, but I'm getting there.

If anyone is interested: This is from 30 things to stop doing to yourself

 

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So true:

"When you set out on a journey you never know what's going to happen."
~Matthew Rhys~

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