sylviane | Entries tagged with 16 things i need to stop doing to myself

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop running from my problems and I should stop lying to myself

I should face my problems head on. I must be aware that I can't handle every one of them flawlessly. I have to go through the feelings that come with problems. I should go through the upset, the hurt, the sadness. Stumble and fall.
It's a learning process: face problems, learn, adapt,... solve the problems.

And one of the best ways to tackle the problems is realizing that I can lie to everyone, but not to myself. To be honest to myself is the first step in handling my problems. ....

Shock, denial, anger,... and eventually... acceptance.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop trying to be someone I'm not.

Someone will always be prettier, be smarter, be younger, but they will never be me. I shouldn't change to make people like me.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop being ungrateful.

No matter how good or bad it is, I should be thankful for my life. Somewhere out there there is someone fighting to keep theirs. Instead of thinking what I'm missing, I should focus on I have. And remember that it could be more than someone else has.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop thinking I'm not ready

Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Opportunities force us to grow and get out of our comfort zones. so it's only logical that I won't feel comfortable at first.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop acting like everything is fine when it's not.

It is okay to fall apart sometimes. I don't always have to pretend to be strong. There's no real need to constantly prove I'm going well. I should cry if I need to. It's a healthy thing to do. The sooner I cry, the sooner I'll be able to smile again....

(Well, aren't those fitting words today!)

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop berating myself for old mistakes.

Mistakes help me to find what is right for me. I've made mistakes, I've had struggles and I've had regrets. But I AM not my mistake, I AM not my struggles. Every single thing that has ever happened to me is preparing me for a moment that is yet to come.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop overlooking the the beauty of small moments.

Enjoy the little things. The small nameless moments will the things that, a few years from now, I will look back on and realize they were the big moments..

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop blaming others for your troubles.

The extent to which I can achieve my dreams depends on the extent to which I can take responsibilities for my life. When I blame others for MY issues, then I deny my own responsiblities. I then give power to others that I should keep to myself.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop spending time with the wrong people

Step away from the vampires that suck the happiness out of me, take my energy and give nothing back, who are never there when I need a shoulder to cry on, but always expect me to drop everything to listen to them.
It is not the people that stand by my side when I'm at my best, but those beside me at my worst, that are my true friends.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop putting my own needs on the backburner.

The most painfull thing is losing myself in the process of loving someone else more than I love myself. And forgetting that I'm special too. There's nothing wrong with loving and caring, but I should help and love myself as well.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop letting others bring me down to their level.

I should refuse to lower my own standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should stop wasting time explaining myself to others.

My friends don't need an explanation and my enemies won't believe it anyway. I should just do what I know to be right in my heart.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - Stop doing the same things over and over again without taking a break

(If anyone is interested: This is from 30 things to stop doing to yourself)

The time to take a deep breath is when I don’t have time for it. If I keep doing what I'm doing, I’ll keep getting what I'm getting. Sometimes I need to distance myself to see things clearly.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I should Stop holding grudges.

I shouldn't live my life with hate in my heart, because in the end I will only be hurting myself. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go!
Forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for me too. I must forgive myself too, move on and try to do better next time.

I'm good at holding grudges. Unfortunately... I mean, I'm still pissed off at CGL, a kid from my class, when I was 8 years old, because he pushed me down the stairs. I nearly clawed his eyes out,... And I still haven't forgiven him.... Luckily I can also forgive things ... I have.

But I've held more grudges over the last 7 years than ever before. I've been angry with my husband, my work, my colleagues, my parents, ... my life itself. I've resented everyone and myself with the exception of Iris. Forgiving others is, by now, no longer the hardest thing. I can see why I need to let go. And letting go has certainly helped me to get rid of a lot the stuff that was messing with my head.

But forgiving myself is harder. I should have done so many things differently. I should have made other choices. If only I hadn't... made the choices I made. Logically I know know that I can't go back on the choices I've made. I don't have a time-machine,.. but emotionally ... I can't forgive myself.

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - Stop complaining and feeling sorry for myself.

If anyone is interested: This is from 30 things to stop doing to yourself

Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

Well this works for me. It's hard to break free from feeling that I'm the victim. It's such an easy part to slip in. "I'm tired, I don't want to fight anymore, it's everone else's fault, people don't know me, yada yada." I need to grab life by the balls again and get a life!

16 Things I need to Stop Doing to myself - I must stop trying to hold on to the past.

I think that I'm already letting go of more and more. Not yet the great spring-cleaning, but I'm getting there.

If anyone is interested: This is from 30 things to stop doing to yourself

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